I’m sure you’ve all gotten emails telling you about your long lost, three-times-removed, incredibly rich and recently deceased uncle from _______(insert random foreign country here), or that you won the Spanish National Lottery, or some foreign business man needs someone in your area to collect his earnings for him at your local bank in exchange for a percentage? Of course, all you have to do is send them some money to enable them to make the transaction….
Well, I always enjoy reading those emails, and if they particularly amuse me, I’ll write back amusing replies just for entertainment. This particular one I’m about to tell you about was especially clever, as it was an advance fee fraud scam that targets escorts. Now, I’m totally comfortable, unashamed and free of guilt for what I do, including occasionally making myself available to entertain select gentlemen at their hotel suites when they’re visiting Toronto. You see, in Toronto, outcall escorting is 100% legal. Thank goodness the government here is smart enough to realize that what two consenting adults do behind closed doors, so long as they aren’t hurting anyone, is between them. Of course soliciting for the purposes of, procuring, pimping, etc, are illegal, but this blog entry is not to discuss legalities of or personal opinions about escorting. It’s about this scam I wanted to share. The reason I brought up escorting, like I said, was because this scam targets escorts, and escorting is not legal in all places of the world, so these girls are an ‘easy target’ so to speak, as they are unable to go to the authorities without outing themselves, should they get scammed.
The statistics on these scams are astounding! RCMP statistics show that between the years 2004-2006, the reported dollar loss on internet/email fraud alone is over $2,800,000.00, and thats not counting telephone scams, mail, print, etc. That’s a lot of money! I would think that with the latest ’sport’ of scambaiting or scambusting (some of which is totally hilarious! I’ll post some examples & links below), better spam filters for our email and a general heightened awareness, that the dollar amount for recent years would be lower, but I don’t have stats on that at the moment.
Now, let’s move on to the scam that this piece of ‘merde’ tried to pull on me. Last week I get an email from a guy who said he’d be in town next week and was interested in my company for an entire night, for the 4 nights of his stay. Not an overly unusual request, but for someone I’d never met before, red flags went up. First of all, this would be a ridiculously expensive visit, if he did indeed want my company for the amount of time he requested. Secondly, most men (I presume) would like to get to know a girl they’re going to spend this kind of money on a bit better before committing to this arrangement. Personally, I won’t see anyone for an engagement this long unless they are a well-established client, and I know I can trust them *AND* get along with them well enough to handle that much time together – because let’s face it: a hot fantasy evening is one thing, but 4 full evenings and overnights is another, especially with a stranger!
Anyway, so I decide to reply to see if I can get any sense of this guy’s character with further email, as the first email was only 2 sentences long. …well, if you could even call this sentence structure:
So I write back and tell him my rates, and I also inform him that I do not book dates for longer than 4 hours with someone I have not previously met, and ask him what he has in mind. I get this as a reply the next day:
Clearly this guy is having a little difficulty communicating with me, so I decided to be as explicitly precise as I can, to affirm my suspicions, that this guy is a scammer. (Though, I do have to admit, a part of me was hoping he wasn’t, because 4 nights of being entertained and hanging out with a cool guy for a great amount of money would be nice, but as they say, “If it seems to good to be true, it probably is!” They’re often right… whoever they are!
So I write: If I understand what you’re looking for, you are looking for 28 hours of my time, (note: I discuss my rate here, though I see no need to bring it up now), Presupposing you are hoping for a lower total than that, AND presupposing that we meet up & enjoy eachother enough on the first meeting (beginning this Sunday, the 24th) just what did you have in mind?
Are you looking for me to come join you at your hotel each night at 10 pm, and then leave each morning at 5:am when you do? Are you expecting to sleep at all during this time? Should I be expecting to get any sleep? Please tell me what you are thinking, and how much you are hoping to spend?
Days go by with no response, and then I get a simple “Hello babe are you there?” email. So the next day, early Sunday morning, sometime around 2:30 in the morning I decide to write back, as it’s beginning to get really entertaining for me, and I want to see just how far he’ll let this deception go. I write to him very sweetly, asking him if he’s still coming to town that night, and asked him to get in touch with me at my cellular number. A few hours go by and I get this:
Okay, I think, let’s keep going and see where this goes. I mostly want to know what sort of scam he’s planning. I know that something is up, but I’m not sure the exact logistics of his plan… yet. I write back and tell him that I want to start with 4 hours to see how we get along first, and take it from there. Without even acknowledging my proposal of a ‘trial run’ he asks for my paypal information so he can send the money for the 2 days. Without my replying, he sends an email to the same address we’ve been corresponding through with this amusing, and clever email. This one is too big for me to post in it’s original size, so please click on the small image to view the enlarged version.
So now I get this email from “Williams” on behalf of ‘PayPal’, but in actuality it’s just an email address he’s made through an anonymous mail server. He sends this ‘transaction’ to me, and for the life of me, I can’t figure out where he got that number from, as it doesn’t represent any of the rates I quoted him for the different time slots we discussed. On top of that, he’s introduced this new character, Robert Johnson, who is to be a recipient of $700 Australian dollars, but sent to his address in The United Kingdom. To someone who has no experience with paypal transactions, this might seem legitimate. The promise of a large sum of money being deposited into their account (which is supposed to include compensation for the money needed to be sent to this ‘agent’) could be very tempting for someone who might already be under financial strain, and/or who might not able to report transgressions against them in fear of being arrested and charged with prostitution. Very clever, Williams, but not clever enough. You got sloppy here. Let’s re-examine this ‘paypal’ email a little further, shall we?
First of all, while the scammer went to the trouble of making an email with the graphics he ripped from paypal, the email address it’s actually coming from is this ‘williams’ email. It states on behalf of paypal, but even that address isn’t paypal, it’s from an email address created at a free mail server. In this case @consultant.com, which is a subset of mail.com. Second of all, the amounts, (which we’ve already determined to be a random #, not actually related to me – my guess is most likely he just copied and pasted this email that was used to scam many other people), are inconsistent and undefined. We have amounts of $7,550.00, $6,850.00, and $700.00 but in unspecified currencies. Have you ever dealt with PayPal where they didn’t specify USD, CAD, GBP or which ever currency the transaction was in? Me neither. Not only that, but first we have undefined dollars, then 700 of these dollars is extracted, and further down it’s pointed out to be Australian dollars, yet the recipient is in the UK and wants Western Union to send it to there.
Now here’s another blatant flaw… why on earth would PayPal need you to use a third-party financial service (in this case Western Union), in order to complete a transaction? Right. They wouldn’t. It’s absurd to think that paypal would take part in a transaction as sloppy as this, and so far I’ve only gone halfway through this email. The list goes on, but I’ll spare you of examining the rest of the flaws. I will point out that all of the links to ‘paypal’ lead to a fake paypal site hosted at some fake free hosted website, or they didn’t work at all. Also notice that the email specifies that any customer care inquiries should be made to this personal email address, and NOT to paypal at all! Sheesh! The icing on the cake is the clearly cut & pasted copyright notice, where the incompatible ascii characters are included, as well they parse paypal as Pa yPal Company!
This is just too funny, I’m laughing out loud, and I have to get my roommates to show them this hilarious attempt at a scam. So I reply, seeing just how far ‘Williams’ or ‘Robert’ or whoever this guy is claiming to be, will take it. I also want to see how high I can get his hopes, because wasting his time means less time he has to spend on scamming someone else, someone who may not know it’s a scam and fall victim to it. I then notice I have this email waiting for me in my inbox:
Okay ‘Williams,’ it looks like you really think this scam is working on me, though you didn’t specify Australian dollars in this email, and what is this about your number in the UK? Do you really think I’m going to call overseas on my dime to talk to you? Or have you confused your scams, and think that I am in the UK, and you will be visiting me here? Anyway… I don’t reply. I want to make him feel a little nervous. The next day I get this little gem:
So now it’s time to tease the guy. Make him think he’s not only getting his scam money, but also that this totally hot pornstar wants to fuck him. I write this: (and I also included an XXX rated photo of me, just to be a tease!)
He replies with more BS excuses with this message:
So now ‘you’ has become ‘we’ and he believes he will definitely call me? It’s like sex panther cologne. 60% of the time, it works everytime! At this point, ‘williams’ didn’t seem to be affected by my photo, and his replies are getting tedious and repetitive, so I get bored and stop replying. He writes back the next day with ‘Are you there?’ and that’s the last I heard of him. I’ve been considering writing back now to see if I can re-ignite his interest, and see if I can waste some more of his time, if it would be amusing enough. Send me your suggestions of what you’d write if it were up to you, k? I’ll use the best one or a combination of the best ones and post an update here when I get a reply. This will be fun!
So after this, I decided to investigate and see if there was any point reporting this guy to the authorities, and since I didn’t actually take a loss, there really wouldn’t be much of a point in an investigation on this guy. The advice I got was just to delete any emails I get from scammers, and save myself the headache. That wouldn’t be much fun, now would it? Like I mentioned earlier, there are many people who have taken to the sport of ’scambaiting’ and some of these stories are so funny. These guys get scammers to send pictures of themselves wearing buckets on their heads, getting actual tattoos, even going so far as to get them to pay for shipping from US to Nigeria of huge, heavy items like washers and dryers! Here’s a clip that one scammer was baited into making for ‘AnusLaptops’ – the whole hilarious story can be found here: TheScamBaiter Website
My current favorite scambaiting story is of a scammer that was scammed into creating a wooden replica of a commodore 64 keyboard!
Being a nostalgic geek, I remember my commodore 64, and that clunky cassete-disk drive, then came those giant (literally floppy) disks. The original blue screen… ah, the memories. Anyway, check out THIS ARTICLE that talks about 5 particularly interesting scambaits.
So now I’ll leave you to think of some smart and funny things I could write back to ‘williams’ – let’s see what we can come up with?
xo Violet
p.s. I’m sorry if there are spelling/grammar mistakes in this blog entry (aside from the scammer’s email) as it’s taken a long time for me to put this together and I’m too tired to go through it and check. Forgive me? =)
I’ve been asked many questions about the “seduction community,” as well as my involvement with The Worthy Playboy(tm) Institute. I’ve also been directed to MANY different web pages and blogs that all claim to offer the ultimate authority in dating & seduction techniques/skills/advice, etc., yet they all contradict with each other! It’s easy to see how so many guys are confused and misled along their journey to self-discovery and improvement. How on earth are women supposed to be attracted and interested in these guys who are constantly being told that they are incomplete by a lot of these community leaders, who, deep down, are also quite incomplete. They may not admit it, or they may be so far down the rabbit hole that they don’t even know it, but it’s true.
It’s an interesting concept: incomplete. Deficient, flawed, imperfect, inadequate, insufficient, lacking, unfinished…not good enough. Between our family, our friends, our peers, the government, and the media, among others, we’re constantly being told that we are not good enough as human beings. We’re told we need to be thinner, fitter, healthier, smarter, funnier, and better looking in order to be happy. To top it off, even if we have achieved these things, unless we have successfully found a boyfriend/girlfriend to ‘complete’ ourselves, we are failing. What’s EVEN WORSE is that we’re taught to doubt happiness. We may have reached our goal weight, changed our diet, went to school, whatever, but it’s never good enough. It’s fleeting. That awesome new wardrobe you’ve been waiting to buy after you lost the weight makes you feel great…for a while. But after a week, 2 weeks, a month, it loses it’s novelty. What a sad state it is when you are constantly being beaten down by yourself under the influence of society. Well listen up, I have something important to tell you.
Happiness IS NOT a novelty!
Happiness is not a goal, it’s not a result and it’s not a destination. Tell me something, if happiness is a goal, something you’re trying to achieve, to reach, how will you know when you get there? What will it feel like? Now, what comes next? If you’ve spent all this time & energy trying to reach happiness, what comes after? Do you stop doing those things you were doing in order to be happy? After all, you were doing them to find happiness, so now that you’ve found it, you will just be perpetually happy from now on? I don’t think so! If you’ve been submitting to these abjective influences, thinking that all this unhappiness and pain will be worth it once you reach the end – once you reach happiness – that it will be all worth it, then you are suffering unnecessarily. Happiness as a reward is fleeting, however, happiness as a CHOICE is incorruptible.
Yes, happiness is truly and completely a choice. You know those people that go through life miserable for no reason at all? The black cloud hovers above their head all the time, and no matter what good fortune comes their way, they always have something negative to say about it, or some way of dismissing it? You can clearly see they are choosing their misery, but no matter how much you tell them, they just wont accept it. Well, if they can choose to be miserable, why can’t you just choose to be happy?
You can!
That’s the beauty of elective happiness. It’s unbreakable. No, I’m not suggesting that you go into a euphoric coma, impervious to bad things and situations that may arise, but recognize that just because a situation may cause you to feel bad, to feel angry or frustrated, it is not a permanent state of being. When you choose happiness as your default mode of existence, no one can MAKE you feel unhappy. Sure, people can do things that make it harder for you to choose happiness, but no one holds the reigns of your emotions but you. Likewise, no one can MAKE you happy. They can do their best to encourage you to feel happy & help remove some obstacles that are preventing you from feeling happy, but again, it is your choice.
Now, coming back to the seduction community. So often I see guys that are being taught that they are not good enough. They’re taught that being a computer programmer isn’t good enough, that having stamp collecting as a hobby isn’t appropriate, that wearing glasses is a hindrance, that no girl will like them as they are, and they must change. Then, on the other side of things, you have girls who are constantly saying how they want guys to ‘just be yourself!’ See the problem here? She wants you to be yourself, but you, as yourself isn’t good enough? WTF? Okay, so the guys go and learn how to recite jokes, start participating in activities they don’t enjoy so that they can impress girls with the things they’re ‘interested’ in, and they start pretending (and sometimes sincerely trying to become) these things that they are not. Well, the girls see through that and if they don’t right away, they find out soon enough, and no only have you failed the girl after presenting this false image, but you’ve failed yourself.
Most of these ‘pick up’ and dating companies teach you to find out what the girl wants, what the girl likes, what the girl is interested in & attracted to, so you know what to change about yourself to ‘catch’ her. I much prefer the few companies (like The Worthy Playboy(tm) Institute, for example) that teach you to find out who *YOU* are, and what *YOU* want. The world is not high school prom with the girls on one side and the guys on the other.
The purpose to living is to enjoy life! If you aren’t happy, nor are you working towards finding your happiness, then you’ve missed the point of life.
So like nearly everyone else, I also caught the “AVN flu” and have been laying pretty low since I got back from Vegas on the 12th. Vegas this year was amazing and wonderful in so many ways, and a little stressful in other ways, but overall a great success. Every year we stay at the Wyndham Grand Desert Resort, an off-strip resort, and the suites are huge and have a full kitchen, laundry and jacuzzi tubs, and the best part is when you’re returning from the Convention & after parties at night, there are no irritating slot machines making noise as you make your way to your room. The stressful part was regrettably from the hotel. They couldn’t seem to keep our reservations straight, (we had arranged for many rooms for us as well as our students taking Johnny’s workshop) and yet the resort kept checking us out before our reservation was complete, and locking people out of their rooms at 10 in the morning – considering we were usually just arriving home a couple of hours prior, this really sucked! But all in all, it was a fantastic week.
I’m just downloading pics from my iPhone now, and for the life of me, I can only find 1 pic online from the red carpet at the 2010 AVN Award Show, but if I find more, I’ll post them. My date for the show was Ameatabh Bachan, (he played Prince Amir in ‘The 8th Day’), and Ren Savant, the director of the film. Also taking pictures with us on the red carpet was David Lord, one of the Producers of the film.
The awards show was held the Pearl Theater at the Palms Hotel, and it was actually a really nice venue. It was a full house, and well attended by both industry and fans alike. The opening entertainment was actually entertaining, with a performance by Baby Bash with some really talented acrobatic dancers, and the comedian Dave Attell. There were also some really funny video skits including my favorite, Evan Stone and Ron Jeremy getting cozy in one of those snuggly blankets with sleeves… I guess you just have to see it – I believe the show will be broadcast like it was last year, after they edit it for TV.
Some other highlights of the week included the Ultimate After Party, which was held both Friday and Saturday nights at the Venetian, hanging out at the circle bar at the Venetian, catching up with friends I haven’t seen since last year’s AEE/AVN Awards, and of course sitting at our usual place at the Grand Lux Cafe, watching everyone go by, while eating such yummy food I didn’t sleep much that week, on average 2-4 hours per night, but I’ve been doing my best to make up for it since. A lot of the outfits I wore this week I actually made myself, my two favorites were the purple zebra skirt/legwarmers/gloves outfit, and my Giraffe costume, complete with giraffe horns!
I am, after all, The Giraffe Princess! That nickname is, of course, because of my wicked deepthroating talent and skill
And here’s a shot of the zebra print outfit: (sorry about the bad quality, it was taken with my iPhone, which doesn’t have a flash, or the ability to zoom or focus)
I’m sure I’m leaving a bunch of things out, but that’s all I can do for now. I think I’m still jet-lagged so I’m going to go curl up on the couch with my kitties and probably fall asleep while watching a movie. I finally got a copy of “The 8th Day” so maybe I’ll check out more of the DVD extras on that.
Hi guys! So I’ve been in Vegas for 2 days now, and loving it! I’ve missed this city, and hadn’t realized just how much until I got here. I haven’t been to Vegas since last year’s AEE and AVN Awards show. The weather is beautiful here, blue skies, sun, warm, and certainly much warmer than Toronto, where I was previously to Vegas. This pic is a view from my hotel suite, looking onto the main strip. The hotel suite is gorgeous, giant 4 bedroom suites with 2 master bedrooms, jacuzzi tubs, and a fully appointed kitchen. I’ve already made cupcakes for everyone, another batch to be made tomorrow. Sure the hotel isn’t right ON the main strip, but it’s only a short walk or shuttle ride away. I actually prefer to stay here rather than at the Venetian (where most of the porn industry folk stay during convention time) because this place is much roomier, nicer rooms (though I haven’t stayed in a high-roller suite at the Venetian, so who knows what they’re like), and there are no noisy slot machines in the lobby to make you feel like killing or dying when you come home at 5 in the morning, or later!
This year I’ve decided to fully appreciate my nickname as ‘The Giraffe Princess’ by not only wearing my favorite deep throat shirt (as you can see), but also with these kick-ass giraffe horns and ears! I made them myself, along with a very sexy giraffe print stripper-outfit – I’ll post photos next week. You know, with the cooking, the sewing and my mind-blowing sexual prowess, I could make a pretty amazing house-wife. I’m so glad that will never be me, though! I’m happy to cook and clean, in fact it’s very stress-relieving for me, and I love giving massages, but try to tie me- down to just one man, and ‘tame’ me as a house-pet and boy, you’re looking for trouble! Haha!
This week is going to be awesome! I am looking forward to catching up with porno friends, attending the best parties, hopefully winning the AVN Award I’m nominated for, and being able to dress like a whore, all day and every day, because I can get away with it here
I gotta run, I don’t have a very stable internet connection here, but I’ll check in when I can. Otherwise, look forward to some fun stories and more pictures next week!
Wow, looking back on the year, a lot has gone on. Lots good, some bad, and life has in general been quite amazing! I’ve watched the entire crowd at Sardo’s in Burbank get “Rick Rolled” during Porn Star Karaoke, Celebrated Eros Day X at the Orgy for Obama, Enjoyed a CRAZY week during the Adult Entertainment Expo in Vegas, Celebrated Superbowl in San Diego at Pure Platinum Gentleman’s Club, Shooting my first BDSM porn-and having bruises for a month afterward to prove it!, got seriously screwed over by someone I thought was a friend – and recovered from the loss, spent a week in Jamaica with the GotAss.ca girls, traveled all over Europe for the summer visiting Netherlands, France, Monaco, England, Switzerland, Norway, Latvia, Russia, and probably a couple others I’m forgetting, attended some wild porn industry parties in Los Angeles & Hollywood, and so many other things that I can’t even begin to list!
At the risk of sounding conceited, I don’t want to say I feel lucky to have experienced the things I have, as I feel I completely deserve my life. I have worked *VERY* hard to get to the place I am today, and I am enjoying the benefits of my best efforts It feels good.
Some of the things I have planned for 2010 are to launch my members area of my website, www.VioletMarcell.com, to *hopefully* win the AVN I’m nominated for (keep your fingers crossed for me!), to be a part of the annual Worthy Playboy Workshop that takes place during the AEE convention, to go to Australia and see wild kangaroos and play with a lot of Aussie boys with their damn sexy accents!, to visit Hawaii and experience it’s beauty and profound relaxing peace that all claim it to be, to go on a jungle safari in Africa, to learn CGI animation – just like how the Disney/Pixar movies are made, to make new friends, re-connect with old ones, and continue down the nearly unbelievable awesomeness that is my path in life!
I don’t make resolutions, as I believe doing so is usually setting unreasonable and unfair expectations of yourself. Rather, I like to reflect on the year that’s past, recognize where I’ve made mistakes, make sure I’ve learned from them, to look back with nostalgia at the fun times, and to just feel really comfortable with myself for who I am.
I don’t have plans for New Years Eve this year (as with most years, to be honest), as most people take New Years Eve as an excuse to get as drunk as possible, and being in that kind of environment has no appeal to me. Most new years I spend with a couple of close friends watching movies and just relaxing, and of course having a little sex is always a great way to start the year off with a bang!
Now, in lieu of actually drinking, I propose this virtual toast, to the year that’s passed, the good, the bad, the ups and the downs, to great friends and family, to successful careers and fulfilling lifestyles, of what has transpired, what is in the now, and for many years to come, may you find your place of comfort in life if you haven’t already, and may you enjoy complete and deserved happiness!
I’m getting so excited for the Adult Entertainment Expo and AVN Awards in Vegas in January! – Just over a week away! I’m still totally psyched that I am nominated for best threesome! Check out a review on the movie my nominated scene is in: Adam & Eve’s “The 8th Day” (I’m in scene 5 &
CLICK THE ABOVE IMAGE TO READ THE REVIEW
Now, that aside, I’m REALLY looking forward to taking part in The Worthy Playboy Institute’s Annual Lifestyle Induction Workshop, teaching men how to cast off their limiting beliefs, and feel comfortable, nay, worthy and deserving, of pursuing, dating and developing true appreciative relationships with anyone – including pornstars!
(you may remember that I wrote about this last year HERE and HERE)
Well, this year is going to be even better! With so many professional gurus and coaches making themselves available to our students, our kick-ass accommodations at the luxury resort, to the AEE convention itself, the industry parties and so much more, it’s going to be a week to remember.
CLICK THE ABOVE IMAGE TO READ ABOUT OUR INSANELY AWESOME WORKSHOP!
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Now, you may notice that I mention “professionally beautiful women” a lot, here.
That’s because we are talking about redefining your “Game” to dizzying new heights of masculine enlightenment light-years BEYOND the norm…
..forcing you to raise-the-bar of self worthiness and finally feel DESERVING of women you’ve once considered out of your league.
You know the type – porn stars, models, actresses, escorts, exotic dancers, spokes models: any girl who is PAID for their unparalleled beauty and may seem out-of-your-grasp.
Imagine living a lifestyle where these types of ‘unattainable’ women seek you out on a regular basis and CHOOSE to WANT to sleep with you – unlike less self-respecting women who may fall for the shallow tricks that your average PUA (“pick-up artist”) preaches with fanatic-like enthusiasm.
Look, if you’ve got the guts (and desire the glory) to live the “Worthy Playboy” lifestyle – just as hundreds of men before you – then you can, starting today.
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This is all happening very shortly in Vegas, January 4th – 10th, 2010 – so if you are interested in participating this year, sign up now, as we’re limiting the workshop to only 12 students, to ENSURE that each person will get enough attention and have more than enough opportunity to address their personal concerns, as well as making it possible to attend all the exclusive industry parties and events!
The guys that I’ve met through these workshops have all been so fantastic. It’s so AMAZING to me to see guys that aren’t afraid to learn new things, see new perspectives, and who are man-enough to want to improve their lives – and do something about it! I have to admit, that those reasons alone make these guys FAR MORE attractive to me than some guy that approaches me, who is trying hard to impress me, or worse – to impress his buddies by his ‘prowess’ with women! Another selfish reason I like being a part of these workshops, is because it’s a sweet filtering mechanism for me, to meet guys who I can genuinely find interesting, knowing all the bullshit and pretense isn’t there. I can be comfortable getting to know these guys as people – and you know what? I’ve even made some fantastic new playmates as well as great friends here.
So I’m really looking forward to convention time this year, and boy, it is fast approaching! Will you be going to the AEE this year? Will I be seeing you in Vegas? Will I be seeing you in my bed?
I found some of my old poetry from when I was a teenager. Most of it is completely unbearable, but two are kind of cute, check it out:
Perfection
Perfect bodies, perfect lives
Fitting into a size five
Clearest skin and perfect face
Belonging to the human race
Craving flawlessness and pure
As if there really is a cure
Never happy with their looks
Wishing one from in a book
Think of better things to be
If you’re a teen-aged girl like me!
What do I want in a mate?
What do I want in a mate?
Sometimes early, someetimes late
A little handsome would be great
No formal bond to re-create
Too much a nice guy, I do hate
A bad boy, who say, likes to skate?
A kitchen woman is my bait
No commitment, I will not wait
I fear a cold and lonely fate
I want a hot & steamy date
Where worries are how high to rate
So that’s what I want in a mate!
I have some fun news. I was asked to blog for Guy.com and I’m so excited to be a part of the Guy.com team! So don’t forget to show some love to Guy.com and check me out there!
Now, I did some reviews on different condoms that I’ve had experience with, and mentioned I’d write a review on some of the lube I’ve used. I’m fairly sensitive to most lubricants on the market, and so I’ve tried a whole bunch while trying to find one that I can use, that doesn’t make me swell up and burn inside.
Some things to know about lube in general.
1. Oil-based lube (anything with oil in it, actually, including lipgloss!) breaks down latex and polyisoprene condoms. If you are using latex condoms, you MUST NOT use oil based lubricants. Also be cautious if you’ve been using massage oil before sex. Make sure to wash your hands before handling the condom to make sure no oily residue makes it onto the condom. There’s no point in taking a chance, right? Be smart and be safe!
2. Make sure to use enough! There’s nothing worse than trying to have sex when your coochie is dry. Sometimes, whether for hormonal reasons, or maybe nerves, or just from being exhausted from marathon sex, us girls can have trouble naturally self-lubricating. Don’t take it personally, guys! I know some guys equate a girl’s being wet as a sign of her not faking it, but please put that thought out of your mind. It’s simply not true. So make sure to have some lube handy, because not only does sufficient lubrication make sex feel better for both of you, if you’re using condoms, it reduces the chances of their breaking if they are good and slippery. Don’t worry about wasting it, or being thrifty trying to conserve, because this is an expense that’s worth making – even if you have to re-stock every week. (though honestly, if you’re having enough sex that you need to restock that often, good on ya!)
Now, with that in mind, on to my experience with lube
First I’ll start with ID Glide, a basic water-based lube. Tried and true, this is your basic non-flavored, water based lube. It is latex safe. I found it to be very slippery at first, and not too thick. As with most water based lubricant, it dries out fairly quickly, and gets very sticky. However, if you keep a bottle of water next to the bed, you can replenish the lube with a few drops of water. I wouldn’t recommend it for anal sex, however, I don’t think you could replenish it as quickly as you’d need it – and you need lots of lube for anal! Because it’s water based, clean up afterward is a breeze! I’m sensitive to glycerin, so I could not continue to use this lube, as it burns me. Glycerin sensitivity is very common with women, so if you’ve never used it before, test a little bit by dipping your finger in some and rubbing on the inside of your labia. If after 5-10 minutes it still feels fine, then you’re probably okay with it
Next, the ID Juicy Lube. It’s the stuff that comes in all the fruity flavors in packets that they call ‘pillows.’ It’s water-based, and latex safe, and has no sugars or dyes, which is a plus. I’ve tried the cherry and the strawberry, and I distinctly remember the flavor being anything but cherry or strawberry. To me, it just tasted like sweet glycerin, with a hint of artificial fruit flavor. It wasn’t a terrible taste, just not what I was expecting. I found it to be exactly the same performance-wise as the regular ID unflavored lube.
Astroglide. I found this stuff to be a little slicker than the ID Glide, but it’s performance was equal to ID’s. Also water-based and latex safe. Not very tasty though (not that you plan on dipping your chicken fingers in it or anything!), it was bitter and almost medicinal tasting.
Pjur Eros (pronounced “pure”) is a silicone based lube. The benefit of a silicone based lubricant is that it’s much slicker than it’s water-based competitors, and doesn’t dry out very quickly. It’s thicker, and more viscous, making it ideal for anal. It doesn’t taste good, but given the choice of flavor between water based lube and silicone based lube, I’d pick the silicone. Unlike water-based lube, this stuff is hard to wash off after (which kind of shows how good it is as a lube as far as staying put!) It definitely needs soap and water for removal, which makes an after-sex shower mandatory (but it should be anyway!) Some people like to use this stuff in the bath or shower because of it’s nature, and not washing away with just water.
Sadly, I’m very sensitive to one of the ingredients used in silicone lube, and this stuff burned me almost instantly upon contact, but I’m kind of a freak of nature in that regard. Silicone lube is the stuff that is regarded as the most hypoallergenic, and inert, and best to use for people who are sensitive to other lubricants. So don’t get scared because of my reaction, the chance of having trouble with silicone lube is ridiculously small, like less than 1%.
URGENT NOTE: You CAN NOT use silicone lube with silicone based toys. It will melt them. I’ve had this happen when a bottle of silicone lube leaked in my toy drawer. they looked like candles that were sitting on a window sill in the sun! Don’t mix silicone lube with silicone toys! Silicone toys are great, but they’re on the more expensive side, and it would suck to have to replace just because of a little of the wrong kind of lube!
KY Sensual Silk – this is the only water-based lube I’ve found that doesn’t irritate my girlie bits. I’m not sure what’s different about this lube than other water-based lubes, but I like it. Normally I’ll just use grapeseed oil (one of the few oils that can actually be absorbed by your body, as opposed to just sticking to the surface of your skin and mucking things up a lot!) because I prefer polyurethane condoms. But when I’m with someone who is larger in size (sadly, polyurethane doesn’t come in a variety of sizes, nor does it stretch very well), I will use this lube because it’s latex safe.
I’m not going to go on about other brands of water-based or silicone lubes, as honestly, the differences are negligible. The bottom line, is try ‘em out, and find the ones that work for you. Make sure to be mindful of what they’re made of and where you’re using them.
Okay, so back to more nostalgia. I was all excited about meeting Luanne, and our upcoming date. We were going to meet for dinner and then head to a lounge somewhere to sit and chat. It was going really well, we were getting along really nicely. Her favorite music was Alanis Morisette, and I hated Alanis Morisette, but it didn’t matter because I thought she was so cute, and I just wanted to spend more time with her. Our date was coming to an end, and we were about to part ways. We hugged, I leaned in and we kissed.
It was all of a sudden fireworks and lightning and bells and triumphant music…. just kidding. It wasn’t magical. In fact, I didn’t feel anything at all. I thought she was sweet, and I had a good time with her, but the kiss was lackluster. No spark, just two sets of lips meeting for a few awkward seconds. Disappointing, even. We kept in touch via email for the next month or so, but never got together in person. It just wasn’t meant to be. Oh well, c’est la vie!
So enough about that for now. I saw these questions on someone’s myspace page, and I found them interesting enough, so here are my answers to these ‘getting to know you questions’
1. Where were you born?
Toronto, Canada
2. What color is your hair?
Black (though it’s actually a dark chocolate brown, I just prefer the contrast of my hair when it’s so dark with my light eyes – exotic)
3. How tall are you?
5′6 (and a half! – that extra half an inch counts, right? If it were penis size we were talking about, you guys would count the half inches too!)
4. What color are your eyes?
My eyes are chameleon, ranging from very light blue, to a hazy green or even a piercing gray, depending on my mood and what I’m wearing. Neat, huh?
5. What size are your feet?
7 and a half, though if I can’t find half sizes, I’ll take an 8 and use an insole. My feet are a little broad near my toe ‘knuckles’ (not sure what to call that part of the foot!), and narrower through my arch, so pointy toed and narrow toed shoes don’t usually fit, even in the right size.
6. Are they ticklish?
Yes and no. If someone catches me off-guard, then they can sometimes be ticklish, but usually if someone uses a feather-light touch on my feet it feels really good, and scrambles my brain – in a good way!
7. What is your favorite movie?
There are many movies I consider my favorites, the kind of movies you can watch again and again without tiring of them. I don’t know that I could pick just one favorite, but Pulp Fiction, Super Troopers, Star Trek: First Contact, Eurotrip, and Defending Your Life are among the top, that I can think of for now.
8. What’s your favorite TV show?
I don’t have a TV, and I don’t watch broadcast TV, but when a show is good enough that many friends keep telling me I should watch it, I’ll buy the DVDs and watch the show in a marathon, all at once, or over a few days. Recently I was introduced to Star Trek (The Original Series) after being a long-time Next Generation fan, and I absolutely LOVED it! Most currently, I’ve been hooked on House, MD.
9. Who’s your favorite actor?
Again, hard to pick just one. William Shatner is very high on the list, as is Patrick Stewart, Edward Norton, Matt Damon, Steve Buscemi, and Brad Pitt. (though for the record, I don’t find Brad Pitt the heartthrob that most women do, I just think he’s a really excellent actor!)
10. Actress?
Funny, I can think of a bunch of awesome actors, but for some reason, I can’t pick out a favorite actress at the moment. It’s not that I don’t have any, just none are popping to mind.
11. Type of Music?
I like pop and oldies best, but basically anything that isn’t depressing or too ‘moody’ will do it for me!
12. Artist/band?
I really dig David Bowie, The Monkees, Britney Spears (yeah, I know), and Mika to name a few.
13. Color?
Pink (it’s my favorite flavor too!)
14. Sport?
Pole Dancing – oh yeah!
15. Food?
I have a huge sweet tooth. Cookie Dough Ice Cream, Walkers Shortbread Cookies, and Cherry Chip Cupcakes are a part of my regular diet!
16. Season?
Summer – I like it hot. While my answer to #15 might imply otherwise, I have a very low percentage of body fat, so I don’t retain much of my body heat, and consequently get cold quite easily. Besides, I’d rather be taking clothes off, than putting more on.
17. School Subject?
Music was definitely my favorite subject, and I excelled at it. I play the clarinet, and previously played the violin. Dramatic Arts came in a very close second.
18. Do you have a best friend?
Yes, I do, and I treasure that friendship most dearly. There are a few people i my life that are so amazing and so wonderful that I’d kill or die for – but let’s hope that never needs to happen
19. Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
I have many – variety is the spice of life, n’est pas?
20. Do you prefer Coke or Pepsi?
Pepsi, but the Splenda sweetened version. Aspartame is awful in the ‘regular-diet’ Pepsi, and the original Pepsi is too sweet.
21. Dogs or Cats?
Cats, most definitely. I think I take more pictures of my cats than most parents do of their children!
22. Desperate Housewives or Gray’s Anatomy?
I think these are TV shows? As I mentioned before – no TV – and no one has raved about either of these to me, so I have no interest in checking them out.
23. Where were you when you first heart about the hijackings on 9/11?
I was working a data entry job for a temp agency. It was my second day at that particular assignment. There were 3 of us temping there, and when the shit started hitting the fan, all the regular employees were dismissed for the day, but because we were temps, we weren’t allowed to leave.
24. What’s the furthest from home you’ve been?
Probably Moscow. I was there just this past summer. I had an amazing time there too, it was nothing like I had expected. I made some great friends there who I miss, and hope to visit again.
25. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be?
I’ve always wanted to visit Egypt and Japan, but first on my list is Australia. OMG, I have such an overwhelming affinity for the Aussie accent. When I hear men from Australia speaking it instantly gets me all wet & tingly! (I’m serious!)
26. Who was the last person who said hi to you?
The waiter at the Greek restaurant I just ate lunch at.
27. Made you mad?
Myself. I do my best not to set expectations of others that are unrealistic, so as to not get upset or disappointed by them. I guess the last time I remember being genuinely mad at someone was back near the beginning of the year when that whole betrayal surrounding the house and who I thought was a friend in Los Angeles. Now, I’m completely apathetic – they don’t deserve my attention, positive or negative.
28. Helped you fix something?
This afternoon at lunch, my friend helped me fix my internet connection on my iPhone. (yeay!)
29. Drove you somewhere?
Again, today for lunch.
30. Bought you something?
My friend Spanky bought me some Cookie Dough ice cream & shortbread cookies a couple of days ago. I have already eaten them!
31. You messaged?
A British friend – We were discussing how funny it is that you never see baby pigeons, despite that there are so many pigeons EVERYWHERE! I saw a couple of pigeons milling about outside, so I thought of him and sent a message. (I told him I still hadn’t seen any baby pigeons)
32. Sang to you?
All of us were singing together at lunch today – does that count? We were singing “Let me smell yo dick” Have you heard it? It’s hilarious!
33. Read to you?
I was listening to a book on tape a few months ago – it was Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. I don’t know who the narrator was though.
34. Have you ever laughed so much, milk came out of your nose.
Yes.
…What? Were you expecting me to tell you the story of what made me laugh so hard, or something? Isn’t that annoying that I haven’t?!!
35. Got gum caught in your hair?
Oh, I’m sure I have. I’ve had long hair all my life. I don’t remember a specific occasion, though I do remember it happened when I was young, and my hair was still naturally blonde.
36. Ate dog food?
Disgustingly, yes. My friend was helping me pack up an apartment I was moving out of, and I had just adopted my dog because I couldn’t take her where I was moving to. The house was just about packed up, when we found a package of dog treats called pup-peroni. They smelled really good (I guess we were really hungry, ’cause I’ve smelled them since, and they don’t actually smell good!), and we were curious, so we broke off a tiny piece, smaller than the finger nail on my pinkie finger, and ate it. It was so gross! We spat it out and laughed so hard at ourselves for trying it! (no, I wasn’t drinking milk… thought you might have had me there for a minute, huh?! )
37. Kissed a dog?
I’d kiss my dog on the top of her head or on her cheeks all the time. Sometimes I’d kiss her feet because they were so small and cute! No ‘french kissing’ though – ew!
38. Aced a test?
All the time. I was quite good at all of my classes.
39. Stayed up all night?
Yep, sometimes, when you’ve been up so late, it just makes sense to stay up, rather than get only an hour of sleep.
40. Can you speak another language?
I speak a bit of French – though I understand more than I can actually say. I read Cyrillic but only understand it if they are English.
Well, there you have it. More about me that you wanted to know – and maybe some that you didn’t want to know too! If there’s anything you want to know about me, please feel free to ask. Comment here, or email me if you like. Violet (at) VioletMarcell (dot) com [sorry, had to break it up like that because my blog is constantly being spammed and spidered]
Please tell me what you are thinking, and how much you are hoping to spend?
So now ‘you’ has become ‘we’ and he believes he will definitely call me? It’s like sex panther cologne. 60% of the time, it works everytime! At this point, ‘williams’ didn’t seem to be affected by my photo, and his replies are getting tedious and repetitive, so I get bored and stop replying. He writes back the next day with ‘Are you there?’ and that’s the last I heard of him. I’ve been considering writing back now to see if I can re-ignite his interest, and see if I can waste some more of his time, if it would be amusing enough. Send me your suggestions of what you’d write if it were up to you, k? I’ll use the best one or a combination of the best ones and post an update here when I get a reply. This will be fun!
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